dependency
Just as you are troubled finding someone to confide your problems and desperations, here comes a friend looking for you to talk about his’, then your phone rings asking you a minute of advice, probably an sms and thread of emails you think are flooding you when you yourself are looking for the same. You want to ask why people can’t just keep their problems to themselves? Why they have to extend their troubles to others? You think of yourself and you don’t wonder why you need the same, you justify your case as a rare one, exempted from the norm… and therefore must be given enough attention by others.
We can’t live without our mothers. We need them to identify ourselves. We need a firm hands to take good care of us… A strong hands to run to when everything is falling off, and sometimes it is enough to say "mama" to comfort us in the midst of pain. Whenever i have a fever, feeling too weak, am doing just the same. My mother then, would ask me what i want her to do. I don’t want her to do anything… But by just mumbling her name makes me more at ease.. a little comforted.And as we need our moms, we do need our dads too.
My father was to me, like a strong general i can ran to from afar.Someone i can call on anytime for a rescue, wherever i am, whatever i do. It doesn’t matter anymore how age brought him to frailty, he still have a good command of authority. Whenever he said, "I can’t believe you can not do that!?!!" or whenever i would insist to surrender, he would simply say, "Then go home. In here, you’ll never get hungry!", makes me realize that after all - after accomplishing a lot and proved a lot - i am still not that strong i think i am. My family to me, is still the last institution i could run to, with whom i have no fear of rejection. I believe i was able to hurdle life’s hardship it’s because God have provided a family to support me.
Next, FRIENDS. Who doesn’t need friends? We fool ourselves when we say we don’t. Friends doesn’t provide all the comfort we need. No single friend can provide all. Some provides comfort out of paradox, that is, in reverse… by providing their discomfort, you found comfort. And we’re too blessed if we are to found someone in higher heights. Friends who are too selfless to go an extra mile just to extend a hand. Only few of them exists. And we must be thankful if we ever found one in our lifetime, two is too much. We need them - yes, but they need us too.
Our special someone. God design each of us to learn partnership since childhood. God molded us into an individual, capable of sustaining each other, extending and receiving support. Out from our family and friends, we are soon destined to be with someone for the rest of our lives, starting again a brand new family, to be mothers and fathers ourselves and taking God’s treasures(children) and nurture them of the lessons we’ve learned. At marriage we are cutting the umbilical cord that makes us dependents to our families and friends.We will be deciding on our own, be fully responsible of our mistakes with our new found, lasting partner in life. It is a reality that a man shall leave his mother and the woman her home, that the two will be one. There is now a self-wide reorganization and realignment of priorities. Everything is certainly not the way they are used to be.
Life will always be like this. We cannot live on our own. None of us can make it on our own - isn’t that why Jesus came?
Our earthly life will always be incomplete, so that we will look for that missing part from others and from God. God gave us senses to appreciate the wonders he is offering for us. There’s no way we can satisfy this senses. This desire for satisfaction makes us supreme over animals and that we are not animals after all. This quest for an end enables us to discover new things, without reaching that end. Pain has no end in this world, and so is pleasure. Our shortcoming and sufferings teaches us what dependence to God really means, and our shared pleasure to others is what it is being dependent to you.
